A how-to of avoiding politics when handling your wedding invitations

When you decide to get married, it will undoubtedly be one of the happiest occasions in your life. However, this initial euphoria may fade slightly when couples are faced with the realities of family politics in wedding planning.

The size of a wedding is often a controversial issue for couples. One person may want to have a smaller wedding whilst the other may want to invite everyone they know.

Couples should discuss both their dreams for their wedding and the means they have at their disposal. Who is so important that you cannot even imagine getting married without them being there? What is the wedding you have always dreamt about? Share these thoughts with your partner before the wedding planning begins to take over.

Your wedding budget is one of the most important factors to take into consideration when planning the guest list. Even though you may be tempted to send out invites to everybody, you may regret it when you realize how expensive it is all becoming. Only invite as many people as you can afford to attend and ensure all your guests can fit comfortably into your venue.

Leaving some guests off the list will of course create some awkward situations. Although it is important to consider people’s feelings, you should be confident that a vital part of your wedding is celebrating your new life with each other and the opinions of a distant relative you do not really know should not taint this.

It will help if you know for sure who you do not want at your wedding. Will you be inviting ex partners? What about a friend who gets notoriously drunk and embarrassing at parties? Try not to send invites to people you know will stress you out on your special day.

Why not create an A and B list to help you manage your guest list? Once your invites have been sent out to you’re a list guests, you can then work out how many extras you can invite from your B list once you begin receiving responses. However, just be sure that your B list people do not find out that they were invited last.